courage
Red Candle Courage Rite
she doesn't remove the fear. she stands next to you while you do it anyway.
she wants
gather nerve before a difficult conversation or confrontation
she casts on
any
Tuesday
mars hour
what you gather
- ·1 red candle
- ·a small piece of paper naming exactly what you need to face
- ·a match, struck by hand (not a lighter, for this one)
the working
- Iwrite down exactly what you're facing on the paper. Precision matters more than eloquence.
- IIstrike the match and light the candle with it, holding the flame a moment before touching it to the wick.
- IIIread the paper aloud once.
- IVspeak the incantation.
- Vlet the candle burn while you rehearse, once, what you actually plan to say.
- VIsnuff the candle. Carry the memory of the flame into the room with you.
she speaks
"I don't need to feel brave to be brave. I need to walk in anyway. The fear can come. It doesn't get to drive."
she expects
A steadier presence going into the moment — this working supports courage; the hard conversation still has to happen and still might not go your way.